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Fashion wise I don't have a specific style I just wear what looks good in my opinion although I have to admit what looks good to me is pretty maximalistic. Also about getting dressed up I always style my outfits before I go to bed so when I wake up I don't have to spend time deciding what to wear.

the thing is, even when you want to swing back towards minimalism, you (I) tend to go looking for basic pieces at typical outlet stores. but the typical outlet stores are selling early 2000s cuts, even if you opt for something simple, all one color. so, you end up looking like a cookie cutter Tiktok influencer when all you wanted was some plain tank tops!

I think you don't have to be stylish or outstandingly unique looking to have personal style. That is what people get wrong. Just wear whatever you want and you'll soon realise that there are pieces that you gravitate to more.

What's more important than taste is context. Don't wear things because they "look good" or "feel good", but because they come from a person or place that's special to you. Dress for your job, your relationships, the place you live. Wear this piece of clothing because you already have it and it's wearable. Your unique background and lifestyle will automatically shine through.

For me it's the opposite, I'm so used to dressing down, where I come from everyone does that so its expected in order to fit in. So many things are considered "too much" very quickly. It's starting to change and I'm seeing more experimental outfits, which feels great. I am very exploratory as a person and I know that being myself would be styling an outfit in a more adventurous and fun way. Also, I know we rely on industries to some extent obviously, and I know what you mean by being kind of pushed towards a certain style, but I am skeptical of your skepticism haha, I do think its quite a limited way of thinking about it, and probably overthinking it because you're so used to the topic you know what I mean? I know quite a few people who are excellent at expressing themselves in a very personal way that is perfectly reminiscent of who they are.

recently started to dress up but it’s like an armour for me, I still have a long journey ahead of self discovery, deeply if I ask myself ik I really don’t care about dressing up lol

I think it's just bc of this recession in the works. we literally cant afford 6 outfits at the mall anymore.

I liked the fashion that matched your content then, it definitely caught my attention, but I also think you don’t need it. It’s so level-headed to just let go of a curated style keeping only what serves you. ❤

honestly I dress like I do because I do it like I personalize a character in a game, like just put cool stuff I like together

came here from matt bernstein's video on conservatism infiltrating pop culture. i can relate to your disillusionment with fashion and spaces that previously existed to freely express. i think there's a cultural shift toward conservative dress and conformity that needs to be addressed here. maybe as a society we don't value expression, individuality, and inclusivity anymore. things to think about…

I don’t feel like myself without my more maximalist or eccentric outfits. I don’t wear them for other people because I don’t really like the attention but it makes me happy and is an easy way to express myself. Not to mention the process of putting outfits together and makeup is almost ritualistic and it helps my anxiety and depression a lot because it makes me feel like I’m taking care of myself. I have been dressing in one alternative style or another since I was 11, and I’m 25 now, so I did get to experience the final days before social media really blew up and ruined everything. The only time I ever dressed basic was in my early 20’s during covid and I got so sick I was bedridden and didn’t even have the energy to shower. Losing my fashion sense for a while was like losing a piece of myself. I have been collecting and curating my wardrobe since I was 16. The first job I said I wanted as a child was fashion designer. I love fashion and it is an important part of my personality because it can be an art form. Like the concept of the artist as the art. And I’m sorry but I think this sudden surge in minimalism is a trend just like any other, and it will cycle back to maximalism quickly because the “20 year fashion cycle” doesn’t exist anymore.

wow this is so honest :’) i love this

You can’t divorce yourself from the existence of the establishment, whether you want to conform or to standout, and whether you want to stand out for self expression or for branding, someone will have some kind of opinion about it. And any of those options are fine honestly. Individual choice is ultimately personal, nuanced and complex – and, most importantly, irrelevant to any one but you. Personally, I find having a distinctive and slightly eccentric style incredibly freeing both as a fat woman and a lesbian. People don’t want fat women in bright flowery dresses, or glitter, or gothy little getups with mini skirts, or anything that makes us stand out. They want us to be invisible. And it wasn’t until I started dressing in clothes I found fun and interesting that I really felt at ease in my body. Similarly being alternative allows you to express your femininity while still looking visibly queer, which is why so many femmes dress vintage and over the top. (If you’re thinking ‘you can’t tell if someone is queer by looking at them’ you can if they want you to)

this video is so interesting and makes me think a lot about my relationship with trends even as someone who considers themselves more “alt” or whatever. i used to think trends were bad because some people (especially when i was younger and shit like that really mattered to middle school girls) made me feel like the trend at the time WAS the expected “uniform” for people your age and if you didnt conform to the trend/uniform you were uncool/nerdy which i have been called to my face several times growing up. but NOW i feel like as i get older and become more confident in my clothes and care less what other people think i realize the only thing that can make a trend feel bad is feeling like you have no choice but to give into the trend, or else be socially outcasted. so many people assume dressing “basic” means you are afraid to show your true personality and uniqueness because of that phenomenon, when in reality you might just genuinely fw the trend for the moment. and for many people trends become part of how their personal style is formed. each trend you genuinely enjoy over the years i feel will ultimately culminate into an amalgamation of everything you enjoy by the time ur like 40 lol

this short does a great job of speaking on personal style – I think its about representing what you're into across your life time. (https://youtube.com/shorts/PBvmzwQhqYY?si=spgjMSG4oZadjBj7)

When the word "privilege" is uttered enough times that you just KNOW the pronouns are in the bio! XD

I really agree with the argument about the constant shift in trends. It has become so clear that it is now rooted in consumerism rather than genuine subculture practices.

I don’t think this video applies to me. I live in Korea. Where following trends and “the norm” is heavily valued and prioritised. If I even so much as wear a head scarf I get stared at by ajoomas and mistaken as a foreigner.

I feel like the older I've become (turning 30 this year) the less dressing has become about the eyes of other people, and more about my own values. I wear natural fibers due to the environment and how they feel against my skin, I wear green because it's the colour of my eyes and makes me feel calm when I see it on myself, I wear clothes that exaggerate my narrow shoulders and wide hips because (looking very bottom-heavy) is literally how my body feels. And most of all, I wear flat shoes and loose fitting clothes because I have shit to do and thus need clothes that I can easily move in.

All of this has created my personal style that for the first time feels like me, instead of looking outside of myself to find something visually pleasing to copy.

The biggest reason for me is that I find those basic outfits way easier and at cheaper prices rather than finding special items that I often have to thrift for, which takes a lot of time. It’s convenience in a world that burns us all out constantly.

great video

i didnt become “basic” but my style definitely mellowed out a lot and it’s a lot less… “drastic”? but it’s cuz i cut my hair and this kind of cute/mellow style suits my short curly hair more